and so the wait begins. 

We had our IUI today at 2ish.  It was stressful due to  nearly two hours of waiting, but it ended up being a super easy IUI.  My darling wife, like before, got to inseminate once the catheter was threaded through my cervix and into my uterus.  I feel good about this.  I feel calm and…

not going to throw away my shot (cue Hamilton).

Last night I had my trigger shot.  Okay, I feel like ‘had’ is down playing what happened last night. I feel like it doesn’t explain the scene that occured when my wife walked into the door after work.  For our past IUIs we had trigger shots at various times. We have 24 hours before IUI,…

the sun has a certain power (our fifth, last iui).

I have spent a lot of time outside lately – gardening, running, walking throughout our neighborhood, sitting in a hammock at the park – and there is a fullness inside me. I think it is because of the sun. The sun grows. It settles deep into my skin and fills my body and helps grow,…

it should be noted.

that my wife is the most selfless, supportive, and loving human being. she has given and given and given so much in this harrowing process. we sometimes forget that our spouses are going through this with us emotionally, that they are feeling it just as deep. i wanted to take the time to acknowledge that. to…

a garbage full of negatives.

It was 15dpiui and I had taken 48 tests. Each one I scrutinized with squinting eyes as I held my phone’s flashlight on it. Is that a line? That shadow? Could that be a positive? Maybe? Maybe this is the time? Each test, the same thing. Morning, during the daytime, in the middle of the…

the clusterfuck that is a thyroid.

So, we never hear about the thyroid. I never understood exactly what the thyroid did until my sister in law pointed out my levels being too high. I never worried about it and stayed up late into the night too anxious about it until I actually understood how it affected my fertility. There is a naive,…

So, I was open and talked about my journey.

I was very fortunate to be welcomed as a guest blogger on a popular doula agency’s website. They gave me the space to be able to tell my story in two blog posts for #nationalinfertilityweek and the response from these posts was comforting and supportive.

trying to hold space for yourself.

I spent half the day with my stomach in my throat. My heart was somewhere in my esophagus, constricted, and both organs caused me to feel like I couldn’t breathe. There is a certain loneliness that comes with infertility and the “trying to conceive” process. There are so many people who are sacrificing parts of…

background / written sept 28th, 2016.

Yesterday morning, I got a call from our Reproductive Endocrinologist. I had received a blood test the Friday before to test my thyroid to see if this cycle we could try. My charts are filled with a lot of numbers and next to those numbers is a scale that reads, “low, normal, high.” If it’s…